Ever want to recreate the nostalgia from a place you visited?

Over twenty years ago, I visited Cape Town, South Africa. A work trip to Kenya, brought me thousands of miles closer. Why not hop another flight and visit a friend for a long weekend, right? A glorious drive down to the Cape of Good Hope with belly rolling laughter when the baboons stole our lunch food. Who knew baboons lived in S. Africa? Then a long beach walkm in a sleepy town where few houses had been built. And, more fresh seafood that tantalized my tastebuds and filled my tummy. A breath-taking, memorable trip.

Ten years later, a new opportunity arrived to head back to Cape Town. Heck, yes, I’ll go back! Excited with glee, to see a friend again, travel around. Yet, this was very different. The Olympic Summer games were held in-between. Vast infrastructure was eradicated to handle the millions of tourists and athletes competing in the games.

A brand new airport.

More high-rise apartments.

Untouched pristine nature, developed into houses and shops.

When you return, you remember where and how things should be. There was a nostalgia that rattles you alive.

The discovery that everything was different ten years later seemed perplexing and even drew slight anxiety. Truly daunting to see all the differences and decide whether it stills fits into what I enjoy or disliked.

Did you change or did the place change? Or a combination of both?

As neurodivergent, pattern recognition is one our strong assets. Yet, if we use the past memory as an orientation tool, we misrepresent what is truly and really going on in the present moment.

This week, take a good look at your relationships. It’s time to reassess. When something familiar returns, its NOT our job to automatically repair, restore, or reject it. The only role to play is whether it still belongs in the life you’re building now.

Breakthrough the need to always keep things in tact or even at peace. Truly dig deep and see what sustains a relationship, role, or agreement vs leaving your needs in another room.

As neurodivergents, we adjust, adapt, and accommodate to persevere an equilibrium. Yet sometimes this comes at a cost. The question becomes, does this still belong in your sphere?  

This is where discernment arises.

It’s not simply being aware. Its discerning what truly stays, what leaves, and what’s important.

In leadership, we always assess for right fit. When new information comes into play, this reconfigures the chess board. We may make a different move this go around. What no longer fits and what you genuinely value.

When you Apply Discernment, ask,

• Does this still deserve a place in what I’m building right now?
• Would I choose this relationship/situation again from who I am now?

Wishing you a wonderful, joyful, and prosperous day!

Lora Lapiz

Blindspot Advisor

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